Just recently I was travelling home by train, which always gets me in a thoughtful mood as there are so many other people to watch. Having arrived and walking across the bridge to meet Nigel, I overheard a conversation between another couple in a similar position.
"Hello darling, did you have a good time?"
"It was great, we had so much catching up to do. I'm tired now. We talked and talked and I hardly slept last night for all the excitement. I even woke up during the night, when something else popped into my mind that I wanted to discuss with ..."
"Did you wake at about 4.00am?"
"Yes, I think it was. Why do you ask?"
"I woke at 4.00 and I'm sure I felt your agitated vibes....!"
As I met Nigel, the couple passed us. Their connection was obvious, not only in the cameo conversation I had overheard but also in their very 'together' body language. They looked comfortable together.
After our own 'hellos', I relayed what I had heard and my feeling that it is so reassuring to see couples who have maintained their connection way beyond that first flush of excitement and romance.
There's not a lot to go on, to notice what they were doing. What stood out for me was the way he started the conversation in a very 'soft' way - he was interested in her experience, rather than quizzing her on the 'facts' and he let her take her time, without interruption, to tell him about what happened. (I have probably abbreviated that above!)
Homecomings are a great opportunity to re-establish your connection with your partner.
"Hello darling, did you have a good time?"
"It was great, we had so much catching up to do. I'm tired now. We talked and talked and I hardly slept last night for all the excitement. I even woke up during the night, when something else popped into my mind that I wanted to discuss with ..."
"Did you wake at about 4.00am?"
"Yes, I think it was. Why do you ask?"
"I woke at 4.00 and I'm sure I felt your agitated vibes....!"
As I met Nigel, the couple passed us. Their connection was obvious, not only in the cameo conversation I had overheard but also in their very 'together' body language. They looked comfortable together.
After our own 'hellos', I relayed what I had heard and my feeling that it is so reassuring to see couples who have maintained their connection way beyond that first flush of excitement and romance.
There's not a lot to go on, to notice what they were doing. What stood out for me was the way he started the conversation in a very 'soft' way - he was interested in her experience, rather than quizzing her on the 'facts' and he let her take her time, without interruption, to tell him about what happened. (I have probably abbreviated that above!)
Homecomings are a great opportunity to re-establish your connection with your partner.
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